It’s time to become unstuck.
Begin your journey to your best queer self.
Our coaching program helps successful gay, bi, and queer men to flourish as they grow older, by showing them how to be their authentic selves and live lives that they’ve designed.
What People Are Saying
“During my 40s I began to re-assess my life. My marriage to a woman had ended, I was struggling to date guys I was interested in, and making plenty of money wasn’t satisfying me. James and Pointerway helped me find direction and inject new energy. I’m so much more excited by life today!”
— Christopher P.
“James has been like a ‘Sherpa’ through the Himalayas of gay life! I discovered how my pattern of bad hook-ups, poor body image, and shame about my sexual desires was really holding me back. The gay world feels so much more welcoming now.”
— Jacob C.
Your Results
Improve success on and off the apps
Create friendships that match your values
Resolve patterns of toxic or short-lived relationships
Connect with men authentically
Find new depths of self-pleasure
Discover amazing alternatives to butt stuff
Define what true success means for you
Make your career and life fit with each other
Create your personal positive relationship with money
Overcome impostor syndrome
Eliminate low self-esteem and poor body image
Decrease stress and internalized shame
Discover queer spaces and groups that are right for you
Beat the need to keep up with the Joneses
Be held accountable for your goals
Talk to us and see if our coaching can help you.
There’s no commitment, pressure, or obligation.
Your Pathway to Sucesss
Read more about me in ‘Our Story’
My name’s James and I’ll be your coach to living best life!
My coaching approach is simple: I’m hands-on, I’m honest, and I hate clichés.
I draw upon my breadth of life experiences as a kinky queer man, immigrant, world-class journalist and storyteller, body-positive nudist, trauma-survivor, community leader, and long-term husband.
My goal is to move you from “I’m kinda stuck and not sure how I fit in with the LGBTQ+ community” to “I love me, my community, and I’m thrilled to be living the life I have designed”.
STEP ONE: PROBE
I’ll get to the root of what’s holding you back from the life you really want.
Together, we’ll examine your assumptions about what it means to be a gay, bi, or queer man or anything in between. What pressures are being put upon you by friends, family, and existing lovers/relationships?
We’ll challenge the stereotype that all queer men must be gym-going, cocktail-drinking, drag-queen-loving, married, and monogamous. If you’re any of those things already, great! But we’ll make sure you got there by choice, not because of heterosexual norms or societal pressure.
You’ll get a personal plan for growth that addresses your needs and desires across every facet of LGBTQ+ life. And you’ll get unrivalled access to Pointerway’s team of world-class experts, for deeper dives into topics like personal branding for your online profiles, queer history and racial justice, and expressions of sexuality, all to drill down into what forms the core of the authentic you.
STEP TWO: PLAY
This is the part where we experiment, pushing you out of your comfort zone but not beyond your limits.
You’ll get homework and hands-on workshops covering topics like effective strategies to attract the guys you want; non-traditional sexual activities and kinks; body-positivity building, and even coaching for better masturbation. Oh yes. It’s really a thing!
We can hold sessions over video if you wish, but most of our clients prefer to meet in person because, unlike most coaches, my team and I will hold your hand during experiences that are new and maybe scary - from visiting a sex shop or bathhouse for the first time to going to a business networking event to build confidence.
We believe it’s not good enough to simply describe ways to improve your life. We believe you succeed with personal guidance and real-time coaching through experiences which challenge you.
STEP THREE: PRACTICE
Here’s where you put all your new-found skills and confidence into practice.
We will hold you accountable for your personal and professional goals, to ensure that the authenticity you’ve found ripples across every facet of your life.
We’ll dynamically adapt your growth plan to respond to your development and changing circumstances.
You’ll have our support whenever you need it and support from queer men like you with access to Pointerway’s community of men who have worked hard to find their authentic selves and live the lives they designed.
Book your FREE Coaching Consultation session now!
Your Coaching Options
Private Coaching
You’re ready to invest in yourself and make your move to your new, authentic life!
You’ll work individually with me having access every day, to feel supported at all times.
You’ll grow at your own speed, with bespoke activities and workshops, and even field trips to bars, museums, and even cruising spots.
This is right for you if you’re truly determined to make changes right now, if you’re nervous around strangers, or just want the freedom to explore with curriculum designed specifically for you.
This option is also available for couples and polycules who want to explore themselves together!
Group Coaching
This available upon request and most suited to organizations/corporations who want to support their team.