Become your best sexual and intimate self.
Discover how surrogate partners can help.
Not everyone has had an opportunity to develop the knowledge and experiential skills necessary to give them a healthy, confident sexuality. Partnering with a surrogate provides you with this opportunity, in a safe, ethical, and educational environment.
Our clients come from across a spectrum of needs. Some have never had a serious relationship and want to be less anxious about dating, kissing, and cuddling. Some have experienced sexual assault or historical abuse and need a safe container to reclaim their sexuality and rebuild trust in other men. Some simply want to try new sexual activities in a safe space.
Surrogate Partner Therapy is a modality that gives you the ability for experiencing, practicing, and integrating new relational, social, sensual, and sexual skills.
What types of issues are we able to address?:
recovering from sexual abuse and trauma
exploring one’s sexual or gender identity
improving body image and shame about penis-size
exploring one’s body and sexuality after significant change (e.g. growing older, surgery, a physical accident, a breakup or divorce, coming out, or receiving a positive STI result)
overcoming social anxiety, particularly in dating and relationships
learning healthy consent practices
learning how to achieve orgasm
learning how to delay orgasm or maintain arousal for longer
inexperience with dating and relationships
overcoming dependency on porn (aka “porn addiction“)
letting go of sex-shaming religious and cultural narratives
How long does it take and what’s the schedule like?
There’s no predetermined length to the process — each journey is as unique as the person taking it.
We regularly assess your progress and decide together when you are ready to ‘graduate.’ Typically, the process takes at least three months of sessions every other week.
Some factors that can affect the duration:
your goals
your schedule and the frequency of our sessions
your experience with other therapies and forms of healing
What isn’t Surrogate Partner Therapy?
Indefinite: You’re not getting a husband hand-delivered to you. What you get is a knowledgeable sidekick who helps you learn the skills you need, so you can then take them out into the world and blow everyone away with your awesomeness.
All about sex: It’s about relationships, communication, self-awareness, and slowing down. After a few months, our clients typically see changes in all their relationships — family, friends, coworkers — not just romantic ones.
Quick and easy: Surrogate partner therapy takes some real personal work. The intimacy and vulnerability of being in even a surrogate relationship can touch on some of your deepest wounds.
Want to learn more?
Schedule a time to chat to us about whether Sex and Intimacy Surrogacy could work for you.
Our conversation is completely confidential.
